I haven't said much about Doug and Quayd all week because they've been gone since Monday to the Uinta's on what they call a "High Adventure". This one was really high in the mountains and with a high amount of fun planned. Eleven boys and several men left us bright and early Tuesday morning for a camping/fishing experience of a lifetime. They planned on eating fish for breakfast, lunch and dinner. I did send Quayd with a few other things, just in case, like all of the mom's did, I'm sure! We've missed them all week long!
It's completely different having a house full of girls with no man influence. We've taken out the trash and moved the big black beauty to the curb for trash day, which is a "guy thing". BUT, that's not the biggest difference. The absence of Quayd's loud, deep voice has meant for a silent home. There's been no teasing all week long and I've not tripped over those boat size shoes of his at the door. But, there's also been the absence of his big bear hugs every time he walks in and out, of his "I'll get that for you, Mom, since I'm so tall and you're so short" teasings and, most of all, of that great big smile of his.
As for Doug, I've not missed having his iPhone alarms go off every twenty minutes when he changes tasks or moves the water or whatever is on his to-do list for the evening. I've not missed the blender going off at 4 in the morning and I've not missed cooking some nutritious dinner every night. The girls and I have had our share of fast food (I love that new Apple Pecan salad at Wendy's!) and frozen pizzas and snacks! BUT. I have missed how he comes in and gives me a kiss just because. And I've missed talking with him about every detail of every day. And I've missed his constant reassurance that all will be fine, no matter what the issue is. He is my rock! It will be good to have them home!
Yesterday, I took Zaylee in for her first dental appointment ever. I scheduled Grace's cleaning too, so that she could see what it was all about first. No fear! She was just as brave about it all, as could be. While waiting for Brett to come into the room, she thought that the fully reclined dental chair would make a great slide. Since the legs were elevated, she leaned back upside down in it and it made for the perfect recliner, just her size. She helped Brett count Grace's teeth and was pretty excited when she got another new Princess toothbrush!
Late in the afternoon, we had a surprise meeting with the Head Start co-ordinator. Zaylee is number one on the waiting list to be accepted. Under the circumstances, they can see that she will benefit greatly from Head Start, so the plan is for her to begin in September. She can't wait. Now, to pray for that one opening.
Okay, and last but not least, I have a confession. I caved. But, it wasn't an intentional cave. ZJ needed sheets for the queen size bed. When I went to buy them, for only $15 more than the better sheets, I could buy an entire comforter set, with shams and a bedskirt. So, she now has the beginnings of her Parisian room. But, that's all! The rest will come at Christmas. I mean, really... it's only 137 days away! ZJ was thrilled!
Today, Zaylee has seen both of her parents in separate visits. She also had two other appointments. Four meetings in a row seemd like a lot for a four year old. But, she's tough! She endured it well. I can't say much more.
One thing that I have noticed about Zaylee as "an issue" would be that ZJ gave her a backpack. She keeps all of her special things in it all of the time. She has special shelves and drawers for her things, but she feels comfort in keeping them all together. She packs and unpacks this back pack all the time. I have decided that this must come from the constant moving and how they would just leave everything behind and be gone.
It's so amazing what this sweet little girl has been through. For her sake, and because I'm legally not supposed to, I've not shared even a degree of what she's experienced. But, to visit with her, she seems like a confident, smart little girl. She's brilliant. And I say that, not as a proud grandmother, but she doesn't miss a word in an adult conversation. She counts and spells and writes all of our names. She remembers everything...where things go, where things were, who said what, where she's been, directions to anyplace. It blows us all away. The other day, I turned west and she said, "This is the way to my mama's jail." (Kelly had taken her with her to see her probation officer.) Just little things like that. She's one smart little four year old. Today, she knew the court building because she'd been there. We drove a few blocks from her most recent home and she pointed and said "turn at that street, Gwammie and it we will be at my old house."
And her prayers... she's so proud and doesn't let us forget that we need to pray. Her prayers, which she's now doing on her own, repeating much of what she's heard the girls pray are as sweet as can be. My favorite is that she always says, "Pweese bless Gwammie's foot to be better." Then, she stops and looks at me for a thank you. We love having her here. She headstrong and confident, with quite the red little personality but she's appreciative and grateful for every little thing. We just love her!
It's been a long day. I managed to get in and visit my sister-in-law,Anne, for the first time since the accident. That's how crazy it's been. I only had Zaylee with me because I left the girls at the mall for their first time ever alone. So, with only the two of us, I was able to visit. She looks well and we had a wonderful visit. She has so much to deal with, I can not complain at all about our situation!
Life is good. It's the weekend. My boys will be home soon! The house is clean! My lesson is prepared! This dang puzzle is still calling my name! Just bought groceries! I have a fresh dirty Diet Coke. The appliance repair guy is on his way! LIFE IS GOOD!
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it.